hey you! don't make your problem MY problem!

so as some of you know i work (as a bartender) at large arena for very well know professional teams in hockey & basketball. 

tonight, i had a guest come to the bar with a tray full of food, and asked for 2 beers.  i get them for him.  he asks if i have a tray for the beers.  alas, i do not.  "well, i only have to hands here!"  he responds.  well, ass, i'm not the one who bought a tray of food and ordered 2 beers.  we resolved the situation, but that is not the point.

i was thinking how i hate when someone else tries to make their problem your problem.  and i was thinking how this has been an ongoing issue in my life:  taking on other people's problems.  well, i think i had an epiphany tonite. i'm no longer taking on other's problems.  my ex had no where to live, so i took him in (even though he broke my heart), then my ex couldn't get to his doc appts, so i drive him.  i have 100's of examples (with a lot of other people), but you get the picture.

i always want to fix everything and help everyone, that's just who i am.  but i have to start to realize......i just can't save everyone when i spend almost zero time on saving myself.